The Book of Boundaries
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- Create Date：2022-08-20 06:53:38
- Update Date：2025-09-06
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- Author：Melissa Urban
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Summary
Set the limits that will set you free。 From the beloved co-founder of the Whole30， this straightforward and practical guide to setting boundaries will revolutionize your relationships。
Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced？ Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly？ Do you wish you could learn to say no—but， like， nicely？ Are you depleted， overwhelmed， and tired of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own？ If you answered yes to any of these questions， you need to establish some boundaries。
Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30， Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure。 She knows firsthand that boundaries—clear limits you establish to protect your energy， time， and health—are all that stand between you and feelings of security， confidence， and freedom。
Now， in The Book of Boundaries， she shows you how boundaries are the key to better mental health， increased energy， improved productivity， and more fulfilling relationships。
In her famously direct and compassionate style， Urban offers:
• 130+ scripts with language you can use to instantly establish boundaries with bosses and co-workers， romantic partners， parents and in-laws， co-parents， friends， family， neighbors， strangers—and yourself
• actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
• tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt， pushback， pressure， and oversteps
• techniques to create healthy habits around food， drink， technology， and more
User-friendly and approachable， The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying， minimizing， and apologizing， leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger， healthier， and freer。
Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced？ Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly？ Do you wish you could learn to say no—but， like， nicely？ Are you depleted， overwhelmed， and tired of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own？ If you answered yes to any of these questions， you need to establish some boundaries。
Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30， Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure。 She knows firsthand that boundaries—clear limits you establish to protect your energy， time， and health—are all that stand between you and feelings of security， confidence， and freedom。
Now， in The Book of Boundaries， she shows you how boundaries are the key to better mental health， increased energy， improved productivity， and more fulfilling relationships。
In her famously direct and compassionate style， Urban offers:
• 130+ scripts with language you can use to instantly establish boundaries with bosses and co-workers， romantic partners， parents and in-laws， co-parents， friends， family， neighbors， strangers—and yourself
• actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
• tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt， pushback， pressure， and oversteps
• techniques to create healthy habits around food， drink， technology， and more
User-friendly and approachable， The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying， minimizing， and apologizing， leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger， healthier， and freer。
Reviews
Maria
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*Thank you Random House and Netgalley for the opportunity to enjoy this ARC。*I am firmly convinced that everyone would benefit from reading "The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban。 I've been a big fan of Melissa's work since 2014 when I completed my first Whole30。 So， I knew going into this book that there would be plenty of tough love。 And there was， but Melissa's tone has become gentler over the years， while remaining true to her own voice。 "The Book of Boundaries" set up what boundaries are *Thank you Random House and Netgalley for the opportunity to enjoy this ARC。*I am firmly convinced that everyone would benefit from reading "The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban。 I've been a big fan of Melissa's work since 2014 when I completed my first Whole30。 So， I knew going into this book that there would be plenty of tough love。 And there was， but Melissa's tone has become gentler over the years， while remaining true to her own voice。 "The Book of Boundaries" set up what boundaries are and why they are necessary in an easily understandable way with lots of personal stories along the way to illustrate。 I loved the way the book is divided up among various categories of people you may need to set boundaries with， including yourself。 But， the real star of this book is the real-life scenarios and included suggested boundary templates that allow you to make them your own。 No need to waffle back and forth about what to say。This book was well executed and very nicely laid out for maximum reader friendliness。 I'm sure I will return to this book again and again as needs for boundaries arise in my own life。 。。。more
Beth
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It isn't every day that I read a book that makes me stop and think about how I have approached my life as well as how I have allowed OTHER people to approach my life。 Having lived through emotional abuse I have felt for awhile that I needed to reestablish some healthy boundaries and guidelines in my life。 Between therapy and THIS BOOK， I feel I have a very good foundation and skill set when it comes to reaffirming myself and moving forward in a healthy way when it comes to difficult situations。 It isn't every day that I read a book that makes me stop and think about how I have approached my life as well as how I have allowed OTHER people to approach my life。 Having lived through emotional abuse I have felt for awhile that I needed to reestablish some healthy boundaries and guidelines in my life。 Between therapy and THIS BOOK， I feel I have a very good foundation and skill set when it comes to reaffirming myself and moving forward in a healthy way when it comes to difficult situations。 And not only do I feel more secure in setting boundaries for myself， I feel I would be an excellent advocate for someone else while they try to set boundaries in areas of their life。Boundaries can be a wonderful thing。 "Good fences make good neighbors"。 Thanks to this book I also understand that setting boundaries doesn't have to be MEAN。 Boundaries are kind。 Kind to me and kind to others。 So many arguments can be avoided when both parties know what is expected of them in a situation。 Written with humor and caring seriousness， Melissa Urban has a great way of making situations relatable。 By using her own life as an example， as well as questions that other people have sent her， she breaks down how to set healthy boundaries in a clear and concise way。 Using a warning light system， each boundary has multiple 'threat' levels that the boundary setter can utilize depending how severe the situation is。 As a bonus， Melissa also shows the flip side - what could happen without boundaries in place， which is actually very eye opening when you are so used to people walking all over you。 You don't have to sit back and allow people to treat you poorly。 You've only got this life - treat yourself kindly by setting boundaries so others know how to treat you well too。 。。。more
GoodGirls_Read_BadBooks
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Melissa Urban is the type of woman that seems so confident you just wish some of it would rub off on you。 She shares this magic， and so much of herself in The Book of Boundaries。 I have read many self- help books that tell you to set boundaries in different areas of your life。 Melissa Urban actually wrote the script。 If you are wanting practical help with how to set boundaries in every area of your life- this is it。 Determining how to word my needs for others in a way that will not burn bridges Melissa Urban is the type of woman that seems so confident you just wish some of it would rub off on you。 She shares this magic， and so much of herself in The Book of Boundaries。 I have read many self- help books that tell you to set boundaries in different areas of your life。 Melissa Urban actually wrote the script。 If you are wanting practical help with how to set boundaries in every area of your life- this is it。 Determining how to word my needs for others in a way that will not burn bridges is what kept me from setting proper boundaries。 This book goes into the way to word different your needs for all levels of attacks on your boundaries。 This is a must read。 。。。more
Vanessa Hernandez
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Anyone who is experience struggles because they feel like relationships around them are draining them or that they are in situations in which they feel like they are being walked over， etc。 needs to read this book。 Melissa Urban writes in a way that makes talking about boundaries seem comfortable。 The compassion and knowledge she shows throughout the book remind me of Brene Brown and I feel like fans of Brown will be fans of Urban。 Urban gives so many different scenarios of boundary crossing and Anyone who is experience struggles because they feel like relationships around them are draining them or that they are in situations in which they feel like they are being walked over， etc。 needs to read this book。 Melissa Urban writes in a way that makes talking about boundaries seem comfortable。 The compassion and knowledge she shows throughout the book remind me of Brene Brown and I feel like fans of Brown will be fans of Urban。 Urban gives so many different scenarios of boundary crossing and examples that you truly feel prepped and ready after reading the book。 While I was reading it allowed me to identify situations that I could benefit from setting boundaries and made me excited to go out and set boundaries。 Urban says that setting boundaries will set you free and I truly believe that。 From romantic relationships， friendships， parents， work relationships and more there are so many areas in which we can benefit from boundaries but if we weren't taught that growing up it can be hard to identify and create boundaries。 Boundaries can be a tricky topic but Urban explains them in a way them emphasizes clear communication and kindness so that they don't feel overwhelming nor do they hurt you or the person you are trying to communicate with。 This book is for everyone and I enjoyed learning from the "boundary lady"。 。。。more
Amy C。
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Essential， practical， applicable boundaries support for all people in all dynamics， circumstances and relationships。 The Boundary Lady （aka Melissa Urban） did an excellent job conveying not only how important boundaries are in all relationships and situations but also how healthy boundaries can actually set us free。 This book is accessible， provides numerous real-life situations that we've all found ourselves and actually offers simple scripts for how to communicate when a boundary is needed。 Fo Essential， practical， applicable boundaries support for all people in all dynamics， circumstances and relationships。 The Boundary Lady （aka Melissa Urban） did an excellent job conveying not only how important boundaries are in all relationships and situations but also how healthy boundaries can actually set us free。 This book is accessible， provides numerous real-life situations that we've all found ourselves and actually offers simple scripts for how to communicate when a boundary is needed。 For many， communicating the boundary can often be the hardest part - finding the language， not coming off too strong （or not strong/clear enough）， providing enough information without over-explaining - and this book provides a solve for all of this。 This book was not only enjoyable to read but is also easy to apply。 I will be recommending this to all my clients moving forward。 Melissa - thank you for this gift。 It is helpful， powerful and will， without a doubt， have a massive impact on all those who read it。 。。。more
Heather Slighter
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I received The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban as an ARC from Random House publishers。 The review of the book is solely my own opinion。I was extremely excited about getting this book in the mail however it sat on my dining room table for over 2 weeks。。。。 just waiting for me。 I was wondering。。。 "do I really need to read another book on boundaries right now？" or should I just dive into one of the many fiction books on my bedside table。 After watching a story on Melissa's IG。。。 I felt the need I received The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban as an ARC from Random House publishers。 The review of the book is solely my own opinion。I was extremely excited about getting this book in the mail however it sat on my dining room table for over 2 weeks。。。。 just waiting for me。 I was wondering。。。 "do I really need to read another book on boundaries right now？" or should I just dive into one of the many fiction books on my bedside table。 After watching a story on Melissa's IG。。。 I felt the need to jump in to this book。 This isn't just another book on boundaries。。。 it felt like a good friend and I sitting down and sharing stories on the importance of working on "strengthening my relationships， bolstering my energy and preserving my mental health。" （totally stole that line from her introduction） The way that Melissa organized and wrote this book was incredible。 It felt good to read。。。 like someone actually understood my thought processes on boundaries and challenged me to be CLEAR and KIND with my boundaries！ She also includes MANY examples with a 3 tiered response guide to all of the boundary categories。 I am a fan of Melissa。。。。The Whole30 is what propelled me to began eating to nourish my body and heal my body with food。 I live for her weekly dose of where she is hiking， （she's one of the reasons I extended my family vacation last summer and spent a few extra days in SLC to hike） and her pearls of boundary wisdom she gives to us on Instagram and her weekly XO newsletter。 All that to say， I began reading this book not only as a fan but a critic。 I wanted to view it as someone who needed specific guidance with establishing boundaries in my life and judge the work honestly 。 Melissa Urban does an amazing job introducing readers to the topic at hand。 This book is organized into various subcategories。 Some of the subcategories include: Work/Life balance， Family， Friends， Love， Marriage， Sex and a few more。 Each subcategory gives the readers examples on how to establish specific boundaries and how to deal with people who try to push those boundaries。 I highly recommend this book。 It was a wonderful enjoyable read and left me feeling encouraged and empowered！ 。。。more
Misti
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I first came to understand what boundaries were in late 2014 after the birth of my son and I was navigating a lot of changes and took a deep-dive into some parenting forums where boundaries were talked about A LOT。 I learned a lot and even tried to read the most prominent titles on boundaries but they were a little dry and too religious for me。 Melissa's IG Stories over the last several years have been excellent and I've appreciated her Green， Yellow， Red approach。 Her book is very similar to he I first came to understand what boundaries were in late 2014 after the birth of my son and I was navigating a lot of changes and took a deep-dive into some parenting forums where boundaries were talked about A LOT。 I learned a lot and even tried to read the most prominent titles on boundaries but they were a little dry and too religious for me。 Melissa's IG Stories over the last several years have been excellent and I've appreciated her Green， Yellow， Red approach。 Her book is very similar to her Stories and this is an excellent way to approach boundaries from a non-religious standpoint and a much more thought out and real-world scenario standpoint。 There is something for everyone in here and scripts for just about anything that can be adapted for anyone。 And it's a good refresher when you have boundaries put on yourself， to stand back and take some personal reflection。 Great for anyone and to revisit when you need to remember how to set or accept boundaries！*I received and ARC via NetGalley in exchange for my review* 。。。more
Marsha
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Do you get sucked into one-sided relationships where you are constantly giving-in just so the other person won't be angry？ Are you tired of putting everyone else's needs and feelings above your own？This book will change your life。。Melissa Urban outlines with clear language and a ton of engaging examples how to establish boundaries in your relationships with friends， strangers， neighbors， work colleagues and family。 For any given situation， she gives three sample responses that she labels green， Do you get sucked into one-sided relationships where you are constantly giving-in just so the other person won't be angry？ Are you tired of putting everyone else's needs and feelings above your own？This book will change your life。。Melissa Urban outlines with clear language and a ton of engaging examples how to establish boundaries in your relationships with friends， strangers， neighbors， work colleagues and family。 For any given situation， she gives three sample responses that she labels green， amber and red。 A green response is an initial/friendly suggestion of how to convey your needs in the face of someone taking advantage。 The amber， as you would expect， is a slightly firmer approach when the green didn't work and the bad behavior continues。 The red is firmer yet -- essentially code-red。 The book is a highly readable compilation of relationship dilemmas but it's also the kind of book you'll keep in your bottom drawer for quick reference to help you out of the next sticky situation。 Highly recommended。 #netgalley 。。。more
Gretchen Rubin
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A practical， helpful book that's also hilarious and a real page-turner， on the question of how to create healthy boundaries。 A practical， helpful book that's also hilarious and a real page-turner， on the question of how to create healthy boundaries。 。。。more
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